The End of an Era of Cheap and Good China Lighter?

For the past few decades, there is no end in sight to increasing cost down pressure across full ranges of products from high end telecommunication gadgets although of foreign brands all the way to daily necessity like lighters in China. A visit to “WenZhou” city last century in the 90s where thousand of small factories were churning out 1 to 2 billions of “Cheap and Good” lighters annually with retail price as low as RMB$1 as compared to USD$1 of the Japanese equivalent. A local owner demonstrated this by dismantling the lighter down to its respective components; cost price was 5 to 20 times different and labor was 5% of their Japanese counterparts. “we can wipe out the other guys easily”. Said the grinning and confident owner.

As a results, the rest of the world watched in awe the unprecedented rise of thousand of small to medium size enterprises which begun to compete with prices and taking tight cost control over raw materials, production process, labor, environmental, taxes, and rental and had swiftly beaten their international competitors and created “Made in China” legends flooding the world with dirt cheap products altering the world’s consuming behaviors; Products there were once considered durable became disposable overnight where quality wasn’t up to the standard were accepted; buy and throw away lighters, screw drivers, shoes and so on become the new norms as the price we paid for these “Made in China” tools was a tiny fractions of what it used to be.

“Never compete with someone who has nothing to lose.” ― Baltasar Gracián

Gaining market share in world economy has been a Chinese obsession for 30 over years ever since it opened her door to the world for business. It is the chief item of current and previous administrator and remains the focus of Chinese economy modernization, the 30% hard bottom line was used by all Chinese consumer electrical appliance manufacturer like TV and refrigerators to remain competitive in the global market; Chinese product had to be 30% or more cheaper that their European and Japanese competitors but current situations demanded a review on whether should the same modus operandi remain relevant going forward.

My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.—Steve Jobs

After all, the China made brand lighters simply weren’t as durable as the Japanese one, it took more than 3 attempts to ignite and sometimes it just malfunction; There was indeed a hidden cost incurred for the RMB$1.0 lighter; the huge cost advantages means a degradation of the component quality as well as user experience. Imitators merely duplicate the manufacturing process with no incentive for productivity improvement and technical upgrade. There also weren’t significant contribution for the past decades on lighter technology by these “Wenzhou” lighter manufacturers.

“The best way to predict your future is to create it”
Peter F. Drucker

As matter of fact, the rise in material cost and gigantic shifts of demographic portfolio in recent years had reduced the once bustling lighters sweat houses in Wenzhou from 3000s to less than 100 where the profit margins dropped to below 2%, the same phenomena affected other industries in household appliances, zippers, buttons, automobile, textiles and so on of which despite being risen to number 1 in manufacturing capacity the huge cost advantages China had benefited with much lower baseline had all but disappeared. Factories simply couldn’t kept up with the rising inspirations of new Z-generation production operators of whom were raised like a King or Queen in their own one child households, many simply couldn’t bear the the relative low wages and mundane working environment, the massive labor demographic surplus China had enjoyed for decades simply had vanished.


On the other hand, evidence suggested that million of new middle income Chinese may be more predisposed to pursuit of high quality services and products due to their financial autonomy and inspirations for more fulfilling lifestyle. Many welcome the shift in relentless pursuit of low cost to premium products with reasonable quality as it will bolster the nation’s faltering advantages of global factories. Hundred of million of influential Chinese who had ventured out of countries clearing stocks of the foreign well established merchandises like there is no tomorrow from designer bags, luxury watches to Japanese electronic rice cookers many of which was “OEM” back in China but not available through regular retail channels. They had all embraced the new consuming appetites not unlike what other advance countries like European, North American and Japan had experienced before in the past and majority exhibit the following commonalities;

“The Master said, “If your conduct is determined solely by considerations of profit you will arouse great resentment.” ― Confucius

1. Most were obsessed about product differentiation; closets full of summer and winter apparels; both formal and recreational, emphasizing on details, positioning, quality and branding.

2. Many discards crude and misleading advertisements and emphasizing on user experiences; believes on peer’s reviews and words of mouth sharing; despise blindly product endorsement but once conquered become consistent repeat customers and wouldn’t hesitate to share with others.

3. Majority of them would generously open their wallets for higher prices on premium products and services to reward and affirmation of the brands for their designs, quality, fashion and their dedication to pleasant users experiences

4. Actual product cost is less relevant to the retail price tags than to consumer’s value recognition. Eg; Fans who Splurge on a piece of RMB12,000 apple watch had no interest to compare prices and had no interest on the cost prices.

“Quality means doing it right when no one is looking.” Henry Ford

Unfortunately, most of the manufacturers had not taken this new phenomena to their own advantages and continue the cut throat pricing competition even into the e-commerce platform where pricing strategy although remains an important part of the overall marketing plots but had lost it “magic” and had no chance to transform “Made in China” to the another new milestones despite ten of thousand of foreign OEM had been enjoying the lower production cost and efficiency the world factories got to offer but most of the fat margins were remitted to the native home (for design and innovation) with merely less than 3 to 4% of profits (for H/W manufacturing) left behind for local infrastructure development and so on.

With few hundred million of newly minted high value Chinese consumers who willing to fork out more for premium products and services giving a helping hand to their favorite brands, rewarding them with higher profit margins anticipating more dedication and R&D for even better consuming experiences in future, its critical timing now for Chinese companies to turn this into their own competitive edges. That’s not just because Beijing is muscling for higher end territory in home grown automobile and local and acquired semiconductor and so on, the anxiety and uneasiness of Chinese appetite for more of their own premium brands are mounting. From high speed rail infrastructure to financial industries to commercial airplanes manufacturer, the peripheries of Greater China are being quickly taking shape reclaiming the glorious days of being the exclusive producers and exporters of highly sought after fine porcelain China, silks and tea  just couple of centuries ago and this would also signal the end of an era of Cheap and Good China Lighter.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. —Confucius

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The New Chinese Ship Load Line

An audacious pursue for wealth in China is increasingly likely to face macroscopic hurdles and deep skepticism about the level of meaningful fulfillment amid recent major economic restructuring from export led business to driving local domestic consumption as the next new growth engine with many Chinese had inevitably embrace the social contract of guaranteed progressive economic gains forgoing more political autonomy pledged by current Chinese administrator.

As a results, significant economic transformation took place for hundred of million of Chinese households since the 1980s; everybody ranging from migrant workers, factory workers to executive and so on enjoyed unprecedented access to decent jobs and plenty of business opportunities had also helped created many new upper income individuals and private entities, however the era of  sailing these ships in these water allowed rather deep “ship load line” limit satisfying all kind of inspiration is over as one begin to observe  increasing number of wages and labor disputes all over China where the Chinese State had since mandated a minimum increment of wages from rather lower baseline in the past few decades until it now becomes unsustainable for majority of the business operations of which had either winded up business or relocated. The transition to lower growth therefore present a challenges to Chinese Government to maintain the integrity of the social contracts.

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.”― Oprah Winfrey

Yet many people continue to rush to get on the bullet trains of prosperity not unlike their predecessors , not recognizing the underlying depression or anxiety driving these phenomena were actually the fear of losing out and lack of self esteem; need for respect from others and manifests itself as the need for self-respect; relies on an inner competence established through experience. The obsession to wealth reflects a widening push to establish more self-esteem climbing along the  Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

As a matter of fact, Chinese is particularly weak in self esteem, having no right to vote to have  a say on their destiny and often compromising self-interests for the sake of the higher course of Party’s interest; Many houses were demolished or forced relocation making ways for mega infrastructures like the high speed rails and so on despite being well compensated. Farmers were clustered into new satellite multistory townships with slim chances of integration uprooting from their precious plots of soils which provided probably the only dependable sustenance for generations.

Fears of a prospects of inferior life economically further pressuring many irrationally on acquiring wealth as a hedge against uncertainties ahead, as a result, many were cruising with depressed “ship load line” vaingloriously overloaded with far too much desires in the uncharted water either not being able to accept the status quo or refuse to compromise comparing with one another rather than having a solid faith of self-worth and self-respects on one’s need for strength, competence, mastery, self-confidence, independence, and freedom for their higher self-esteem.

Our business in life is not to get ahead of other people, but to get ahead of ourselves.”– Maltbie Babcock, clergyman and writer

On the contrary, worries of a contagion effect from China’s slowdown are overblown. For they assume that the country’s enormous economy plays a proportionate role in driving global growth. In reality, the impact of a dramatic and sustained downturn would likely be more psychological than material and will take a toll on the self-esteem. Not unlike Ship complying to the “ship load line” for stable voyage depending on the specified water types and temperatures in order to safely maintain buoyancy. Individual had to take an assessment of the situation and offload non essential desires like the need to seek fame or glory of which will not help the person to build their self-esteem until they accept who they are internally.

This debacle dramatically underscores a new change of direction in the governance of China under President Xi Jin ping. Decision making has become top down, more rushed and far less predictable probably as to further strengthening the regime as the Country progressing into middle to upper income state where people will inevitably demand for higher autonomy and having a say in how an administration should be managed if decades of years of good times enjoyed beginning to look uncertain ahead. It’s a potent reminder that nothing is so blinding as the illusion of seeing.

In summary, its time to adjust the New ship load line for many Chinese into the Era of slower growth avoiding massive capsize ahead, extraordinary efforts are also needed to continue to maintain high esteem levels through accepting perhaps the current hybrid system of authoritative Communist and planned economics are the only effective way uniquely for China. One cant have the best of both world forever; western style democratic and high degree of materialistic prosperity at least not during the transition period. 

“The world has enough for everyone’s need, but not enough for everyone’s greed.”― Mahatma Gandhi

P/S: The water line also know as “Plimsoll line” establishing a legal limit to which a ship may be loaded for a specified water types and temperature in order to safely maintain buoyancy after countless capsize accident due to overloading in 1800s.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, represented as a pyramid with the more basic needs at the bottom[1]


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Chinese Slave Redeemption in 11th BC

 Chinese Slave Redemption in 11th BC

We should ask ourselves whether relentlessly doing things well solely for our own peace of mind and benefits are ultimately a greater threat to overall well being of others than weighting the pro and cons upfront before any actions taking into macroscopic consideration and sometimes doing nothing might be a wiser choice. We are obsessed in the feeling good factors and didn’t prioritize on focusing in doing the right thing every time the first time of which perhaps is the most effective and efficient way.

We had a tendency of repeating the same mistake over and over again and hopelessly incapable of getting things straighten out correctly despite having abundant of precedence and advice within reach. We fail to think out of the box and prefer staying in our own comfort zone being a habitual being, getting by and accept compromises fooling ourselves this is the way it is and no other ways around.

The old believe everything; the middle-aged suspect everything; the young know everything.”

— Oscar Wilde,writer

One of the ancient China county dated 11th century BC had a magnificent and generous scheme for anyone to redeem slaves of the same statehood they come across in other states with own expenses upfront to get reimbursed later from the state treasury department so long one produces legitimate invoices. The redemption scheme had seen significant recovery results, reuniting families and solidifies the nationhood with strong bonds.

The contemporary scholar Confucius had many disciples, Zigong being one of his most favorite protege of whom is also a well established affluent businessman took the opportunities to demonstrate his superior nobility invalidating the relevant receipts in public upon “freeing” a slave he stumbled across during one of his field trip, making a head turning wide publicized statement of his willingness to absorb the expenses rather than burdening the local government. Upon returning home, Confucius made known of his displeasure of Zigong’s conduct and declined to meet up with him. Mystified, the depressed Zigong broke through the barrier and faced up his beloved master;

Confucius: “I am very disappointed in what your have done, despite you gaining popularity of nobility for yourself, you had greatly compromised the redemption scheme’s original intention and brought great harms to the community”. How ancient wise man , despite being lack of access to internet and information, outpaces modern man on the proper way one should carry himself having deep insights on all ranges of matters, drawing sensible judgement and capable of refraining from carrying out feel good actions knowing its potential repercussion if any.

Indeed, the complication of Zigong’s conduct had gone way beyond after the news went viral, its gives hesitations to many others who wanted to do good deeds by “freeing” slaves” going though the hassles willingly as they were caught in the dilemma; to claim from Government and risk being labeled as calculative or to absorb the sizable financial expenses, as a result, the scheme eventually lost the intended intentions and many more slaves lost the potential chances to be “released” and go home to their families. Zigong acted with good intention  and overlooked on the unintended consequences of repercussion and crippled the whole system unknowingly. in fact, Zigong has become an unlikely culprit undermining State efforts to increase the pace of freeing her citizen from involuntary slavery as its society is in the face of weakening cohesion.

Even common folks who mind their own business tend to be far less accepting of its physical and social consequences if things got out of control due to an individual seemingly harmless conduct. Unfortunately it’s the ordinary people , far removed from the subjects who are bearing the brunt of unintended side effects, while those who are responsible for the origination of the troubles remain insulated from the backlash.

In addition, fleeting experiences of empathy redefine the self in terms of the collective and orient our actions toward the needs of others. Researchers believe that awe deprivation has had a hand in a broad societal shift that has been widely observed over the past 50 years: People have become more individualistic, more self-focused, more materialistic and less connected to others. Blocking out distractions can create an environment conducive to insights. So can having a positive mood. While many of the suggestions contain caveats, ultimately it seems that there are ways to be more open to these moments.

In summary, during its breakneck urbanization and modernization, China a traditionally Confucian country, with a history of reverence for hierarchy; emperors, officials and civilians all had their respective roles and lines are seldom crossed.- Has struggled to address how to accommodate they new swelling level of wealth while preserving good old Confucian values.


Spending Level up but Happiness Barely Keeping Pace with it in China

Spending Level up but Happiness Barely Keeping Pace with it in China


With average Chinese consumers facing unprecedented lifestyles choices increasingly attractive and within reach ranging from extravagant holidays to luxurious possessions like time pieces and designer bags, the more they need a dose of the 21st century rationale mindset to stay prudent and practical. As a matter of fact, the combination of rising disposable income of the middle class and burgeoning of consumerism has yielded dramatic changes in Chinese consuming behavior in the pursuit of the good life heavily influenced by western public media and contemporary popular values. The way they spend money on often offer a glimpse into Chinese inner modus operandi and a better understanding of the primary motives behind the expenditures enhance the satisfaction levels giving more bang for their highly sought after RMB bucks.

Ever notice how the initial holiday enthusiasm plunges right after collecting a handful of “likes” and “shared” of the vacation pictures posted online either after the trip or like what many other increasingly did now instantly? Or having troubles paying attention to the fine culinary cuisines served at a candle light dinner in an expensive restaurant right after taking food pictures and selfies and having them collected respectable number of “likes” in a spectrum of social media networking platforms in your virtual supporting network instantaneously?

“A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to leave alone.”Henry David Thoreau

Worry not, you are like many of the contemporary Chinese smartphone users had unknowingly being conditioned as Pavlovian dogs (  craving for the common human desires to be accepted, acknowledged or to the extent of being envied; the actual exciting occurrences of nursing coconut juice at a pool side under a shade at a white sandy beach with blue sky in a hot summer day had to take the back seat, it’s the corresponding “likes” and “share” we are addicted to not unlike the dogs salivating with anticipation in response to the bell, achieved by repeated pairings of the neutral stimulus and the potent biological stimulus that elicits the desired response.

The secrets to be back on our two feet again are to examine the primary motives behind the expenditures; parting away with hard earned legal tenders just to impress others didn’t do justice to the money as euphoria produced if any is anything but short lived. Opening wallets to what and why doing so in the first place are equally important. The satisfaction is half gone if we merely wanted to show off as compared to having our essential desires being addressed.

“Once you really accept that spending money doesn’t equal happiness, you have half the battle won.”Ernest Callenbach, 

For an experiential acquirement and genuinely fulfilling lifestyle had more powerful lasting influences on our state of happiness as these will help one grows, satisfying the physiological cravings with sense of achievement and in control, higher level of  emotional and an intense state of transcendent happiness combined with an overwhelming sense of contentment. Expenditures toward achieving these had a more profound dollar values  So long the motive behind our spending matches with our personal psychological needs and the initiative origins from the strong inner drives, interests, passions and values we would exhibits stronger happiness, sense of satisfaction and solid association with others, our whole body and souls can be truly recharged and in harmony.

For example, for enthusiastic collectors, one didn’t mind paying seemingly exorbitant price to own a piece of rare item like antiques or paintings as they truly capable of appreciating their values and derive pure sense of joys without the need to entice admiration from others. Likewise, any expenditures to feel good on the expenses of others just isn’t worth it as they didn’t appeal to core needs, for example. Someone who has not acquired a taste of premium red wines consumed a bottle of fine wine just to impress his guests and so on.

In conclusion, China which had gone through a generation buffeted by famine in the 1950s and the chaos of the Cultural Revolution in the 1960s and ’70s now faces challenges that include the new rich’s relentless flaunting of wealth and a near 100% rate national past time of simmering resentment of the rich during its breakneck urbanization and modernization since 80s, a traditionally Confucian country, with a history of reverence for hard working and thrifty lifestyle has to learn  to address how to spend wisely for their swelling wealth for their own benefits.

Money is an opportunity for happiness, but it is an opportunity that people routinely squander because the things they think will make them happy often don’t.”-Elizabeth Dunn, Daniel Gilbert and Timothy D. Wilson,



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Leave the Best for the Last

02121CLeave the Best for the Last  

Japanese language had a unique feature of placing importance on the closing sentences rather than in drive the essential key messages across, taking advantage of the “Peak-end rule” by Daniel Kahneman: “a psychological heuristic in which people judge experiences largely based on how they were at their peak (i.e., their most intense point) and at their end, rather than based on the total sum or average of every moment of the experience” .

As a matter of fact, an exchange usually consists of elements of both pleasant as well as a non-appealing one. Context and grammar wise, it carries the same information but it can leave a rather pleasant and lasting impression if we leave the best for the last in the delivery. For example, to pitch a Kinomo dress to potential customers from Tokyo: “The thread was from Osaka but carefully knitted in Tokyo:, likewise, to persuade Osaka based prospects: “Produced in Tokyo with fine threads from Osaka”. Just by reordering the sequences of the sales pitch accordingly, one can increase the probability of closing a deal.

Frequent misunderstandings with one another within our social network underscores the challenges we face amid creative and highly manipulative expansion of our online circles in the world’s largest phenomena never experienced before by mankind. Its not uncommon to learn someone you know have their relationships and reputations being ruined beyond repair overnight with seemingly online innocent postings as intentions was being taken out of context without a fair chance for rectification as compared to standard face to face or over the phone interactions. Now everyone becomes a public figure with unprecedented scrutiny from all around the world, localized and isolated school bullies could potentially become a global online manhunt where some wouldn’t hesitate to hurl virtual abuses in their comforts of their home not unlike the classic road rages where decent individual transformed into hideous character as their automobile become part of the extension when they are behind the sterling wheel.

Working hard to being accepted and given a seal of approval in any relationships is coded in every one of us, from newborn’s instinctive cling to the first human to a child’s formation of playmates, teenager’s exclusive one sided alignment with peers, adult identifying suitable life long mate, sustaining networks of like minded colleagues and so on, yet the simple fundamental and effective rules of engagement that could help us to thrive with fellow homo species have become increasingly challenging nowadays as our days were filled to the brink with ceaseless digital disruptions we willingly consented to in an anticipation of a more productive and rewarding lifestyles.

With the risk of distance in between our treasured friends and relatives in our social engagement rapidly increasing, regular practices with one another in our daily interaction provided an indispensable avenue for us to remain in the mainstream. After all, no man is an island and we are there for each others.  Face to face interactions can also potentially snap up positive energy of one another if proper context and good intention wasn’t put in placed, situation was far worse for the ever dominating social media platforms where the information exchanged was restricted to either text, visual and audio and often rather highly subjective.

Our generic set of highly capable and complex bio sensors actually capture full spectrum of details of which play an important influencing factor even without ourselves noticing it; Acts of rubbing chin, covering one’s mouth, tickling one nose during a conversation usually indicated lies; unstable verbal tone tells if one is nervous; weak handshakes, distancing, straying eye and crossing one arms reveals withdrawn and mistrust. The ambient; lights, background noise, humidity, temperature, a particular aroma and so on all form a big picture of what is exactly going on. Our brains goes into overdrive mode to make crucial judgement subconsciously taking advantages of our basic instincts; a hunch if it’s a scam in progress, if the man is a liar or one had actually found a perfect mate. In other words, the best and sure way to establish and maintain high quality and mutually rewarding relationships across all levels is offline,

In summary, online social media is a great tool and it can be use to compliment our social life rather than replacement of the good old physical interactions where it truly matters. Practice with one another is important to build one’s competency levels, excessive dependence on seemingly almighty internet platforms usually degrades one socializing skillets and always follow one golden rules of leaving the best for the last in a message for maximizing the intended result.  Sometimes, a simple and yet enriching conversation with one another can be as nourishing as a good meal to a physical body as to our souls. Quality triumph over quantity as an average Joe cant possibly manage a couple of thousand high quality friends as claimed on social sites.


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Leverage of Social Networking Parts Ways With Traditions

It’s a well-accepted fact that social networking expansion raises one’s chances of reaching out to more favorable circumstances, however, contrary to popular beliefs, more opportunities are actually waded in as doors are opened through acquaintances from one’s secondary links; a network of people of which one only get to meet probably couple of times a year or not at all for a while rather than from the solid primary social circles of people we hang around on a daily basis.

The rediscovery of the importance of tier 2 networking has found some resonance; from rising incidents of successful job referral revealing the true values of weak social ties one had to extremist’s sizable reaches to young individuals who were inspired to join the great quest from all corners of the connected world. Therefore one shouldn’t underestimate the potential complication of the secondary influences for better or for worse.

Given today competitive mode where the strength of one social’s reach plays an inordinately large role in everyday affairs; from careers advancement, closing deals to making important decisions, most people are inevitably slaves to fear of the unknown beyond their own comfort zone, and prefer avoiding risk to staring it down and reinforce it with self- fulfilling prophecy depending exclusively on advises and guidance from first level of strong circle of liked minded colleagues, friends and relatives. As flock of the feather fly together, our everyday connections where we draw most of the supports and meaningful conversations everyday are likely having very similar profiles as ourselves. They would’ve had the same limitation of useful information or referral outside their existing circles of influences.

In addition, proliferation of multitude of social media networking platform is making it easier for an individual to harness high value prospects through the weaker ties both online and offline. Surprisingly, secondary link can outpace our primary connections in providing valuable tips or advises, it would mark the significant of diversity one needs in this complicated Eco system not unlike in the animal empire, whose influence had until recently appeared to be negligible amid little emphasis and time we actually spent with this particular  network grid. The “someone” from the loose fabric need not to be necessary influential individual with means although it sure didn’t hurt knowing someone up in the value chains. The fundamental distinctions are their profoundly different background from one own which serves as a valuable window for relevant information. Having Robust and valuable life long affiliation not necessary means the type of inner circles you ‘re in but rather how many different outside links can one establish contacts.

There has also been an awakening in the contemporary environment, which has manifest in growing wariness on digital divides and infiltration . A growing segment of demographic society didn’t seem to be able to take advantage of online resources for their own legitimate benefits either through lack of accessibility or incapable of expanding one horizons with sufficient diversity of information. Many become their own editors in deciding their choice of daily exclusive reading materials with the easy to use free instant access online tools often not giving one wide range of coverage from politics, finance, entertainment, community, international, local, IT, forum and so on. Authority had to resort to online advertisements to broadcast their propaganda on the digitized public as the landscape of conventional mass public media channels (TV, Radio, Newspaper) had been radically undermined.

In summary, in an effort to understand the inexorable widening of the gap between haves and have not, one flag stand up. The haves usually had wider networks outside their inner sphere of influences and better understanding how one gains access to useful information will carry weight with have not who aspire to move up the chains of social mobility. Despite the fact that we interact a lots more extensively within our own category as compare to the loose connections of which their wide variety of diversity of different background often throw us the critical indispensable lifelines. In other words, relevant and diversity of information plays a more important roles

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Relationship Management Upgrade 2.0


How do we account for time of which events took place in timeline sequence? with God given internal clock (heartbeats) governing our biological life cycles we become conscious of the passing time with varying degree of perceptions very much dependent on the corresponding context. Internet had a profound impact on our time as we have seen time and again what comes in the wake of perpetual access to the Internets via mobile platforms. As much as technology is an instrument of control, connecting people to outside influences is bound to accelerate the depletion of our limited time never experienced ever.

It’s not uncommon for one to dwell in past events, living it over and over again in our mind for better or for worse, we are backtracking past memories on specified incidents using cognitive situational retrieval model to assess its significant; the more details one can recall, the greater the impacts as in duration and relevancy. Our built-in complimentary sensors could had also aided some of the details collection subconsciously of which the associated recollection we unknowingly filed away could be triggered from time to time; the magnetic tone, salty air, smooth touches, vibrant blue sky, emotional state of fear or enlightenment of that moments and so on. Compulsive engagement of social media doesn’t stop at taking away our precious resources of time; it make a point of taking away our identity and privileges to get connected to peoples, event and ideals in full context. Our sophisticated senses was deprived of their entitlements the social media platforms had yet to offer.

Most important, perception changes time, it correlated to the level of complexities. A classical experiment on test subjects to memorize between a simple and complicated illustration despite both were given equally amount of time, the later felt it had taken longer time to finish the task. We had bulldozed our way into high productivity era with emphasis on faster, better, bigger and cheaper in all aspects in our lifestyle but success seems years away despite countless of efforts put in. The allure of instant gratifications which many had gotten addicted to on personal internet devices has led many to take some uncharacteristic moves that defy the individual proud traditional core values of managing relationships primary with close friends who matters the most through face to face conversations and sharing. We now had more than ever online friends and eager to share out our rather private and personal affairs on media platforms without hesitations, posting only one happiest and best moments in vacation or status used to be a very private gesture only to selected few as not to make others feel uncomfortable on how much well of you have been (Being humble). We all become our own models in advertisement broadcasting exclusively solely on our well beings which represents an incomplete profile of ourselves.

True friends need some level of physical interaction, sharing and confides both enlightening and distressing worries with one another. As a result, we can simply extend our days with these meaningful ties we develop with same amount of time we used on management of online relationships, as it portrays an oversimplified social network. Time used to develop webs of loving and meaningful relationships can do amazing good. Many argue that our core self are being hollowed out as dependence on social media networking grow, getting connected to friends are never this easy and convenient. Our insatiable tendency to strive for popularity online with ever increasing genuine or fake followers suggests we are just social animals craving for attentions making it harder for people to work on the physical relationships where time factors are part of the essential ingredients. Chances to form meaningful ties with one another today have never been easier yet many report higher levels of loneliness and social disconnections.

 Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.– T. S. Elliot

Another key element in our association with time is “Prior anticipatory influences”, the same experiment was conducted but one is given a task upfront to estimate the time he or she needed to complete the test. In regardless of which illustrations was assigned, the conscious awareness gate which serve as a door to our capturing mind will be engaged. For someone who holds high regards on the job will have full throttle at the gate with maximum signals being processed and vice versa, explaining why 15 minutes actual conversation with a friend seems to last hours as compared to equivalent time of engaging in social media activities.

Many bet economic gains would outweigh the constraint of finite resources of eventual mortality are kidding themselves and will be dealt a setback eventually, as we ultimately merely needs love, faith and hope. Change your perspective and you can change your life as a popular motto recited daily by a popular local talk show in Singapore; one can actually squeeze more out of our depleting days by stretching it further with alternative perspective. Ever wonder why we had timeless long holidays when we were younger but time simply flies by when we got older. Our relationship with time is closely related to the amount of information we handle daily, kids explore and venture new and exciting things on a daily basis and he or she had practically unknowingly extended beyond their daily ration of 24 hours. Older adults had relatively mundane routines and some of our days just went unaccounted of with the awareness gate virtually closed. So, one can simply enjoy a upsize of your days by living adventurously, enthusiastically and full of wonders.

Online networks lacks the necessary complexities and integrity which should be used as great and efficient secondary relationship management tools with primary focusing on physical interactions where you get the real deals and these social deposit you made with one another can last a lot longer as its rich and influential in nature, this approach offers key considerations to maximize one precious resources of time where everybody is given 24 hours a day no more and no less on one of the most important aspect of life; relationships.


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