It Is Not Just About Connecting the Dots, It’s About Making Them

It Is Not Just About Connecting the Dots, It’s About  Making Them

Majority of the well-educated adult Chinese workers are hanging on to their day job and had not possessed 2nd marketable skillets, some didn’t even know what are their own passions and hobbies of which some degree of grooming and investment are needed and many didn’t even bother to start as they were unknowingly engrossed with the almighty self-glorifying and instant gratifying social media platforms draining off whatever precious limited stamina and mental capacity that left over after work.

“It’s what you do in your free time that will set you free—or enslave you.”  ― Jarod Kintz,

As a results, many didn’t live up to their full potential, one also observes the self-worth has been in free fall in China, signaling concerns about meaningful personal growth for many especially since China opened up to the World in 70s, decades of robust continuous economic growth is nothing short of spectacular. However, many had also unilaterally moved away from the socialist regime that had underpinned the post Chairman Mao society, leading to a turbulent breakdown in Chinese legacy of mainstream beliefs; relentless accumulation of monetary wealth become the only obsession. Naturally, this was a pronounced shift toward a different life goal approach that was better suited to an era of fast-paced lifestyle but had unknowingly shut us out of many potential future opportunities.

Master Oogway: The more you take the less you have 

So, it is as good a time as any to explore new experiences. Making it voluntary may not be as big of a chance as most of us are conditioned to evaluate immediate pros and cons and helplessly incapable of visualizing the potential long term gains and simply give up avoiding the hassles in the beginning. The broad values underpinning this phenomena ought to be examined closely, prosperity confined merely to monetary possession had often blinded people from seeking the greater significant meaning of wealth which also include overall well-beings; health, belief, family, jobs, network and so on. One needs to take the first step without being too calculative as these could well be one of many dots that’s comes in handy later on. Adopting a mindset of welcoming new experiences in diversity would also help one to overcome the fears of unknown; having a strong faith that things will always work out well eventually so long you believe it will.

There’s always a reason behind everything that has happened… It change you into better a person—unknown

For example, those of your friends who persisted in their hobbies and interest eventually became dedicated swimming coaches, amateur photographer, foreign language tour guide, musician, pedicurist, florist and so on. Some become who they want to be not necessary all had to do with their primary area of disciplines in their professional training but because they are making their own dots believing these will eventually pay off not necessary in monetary perspective but in overall well-being in the long term.

“If you only do what you can do,you‘ll never be more than you are now.” Master Oogway.

All of us, overemphasizing on connecting the dots forward and didn’t create enough dots in the beginning for connecting them backward much later on. E.g. Give up swimming lesson at age 15 and missed the chance when someone you had a crush on asked you out for a swimming date at 18. Belly up in Japanese lesson at 18 and had to pass out a great job opportunity at 28 of which a command of good Japanese is a prerequisite. The more we being calculative at the beginning to learn a trade, pick up a hobby, groom our interests, making new friends, the more likelihood we lose the opportunities for broader meaningful engagement later on.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”–Winston Churchill

So, Instead of greeting the toll of missed opportunities due to our short sighted calculative obsession with a collective shrug, we ought to embrace new experiences with a brand new perspective, these are all the doors one is opening for one own growth in wider time horizons of years if not decades down to roads.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”― Steve Jobs


In summary, from time to time, we give up things we have an interests in just because it’s too much hassles and if this develop to become a habit, we are losing the most previous resources as we after all are not immortal and nothing beats leaving a legacy and being excellent in what we do. Have a ready mindset and altitudes of welcoming new experiences would also help to mitigate the fears of the unknown compelling us to walk out of our comfort zone for new and rewarding experiences, in fact, wealth creation includes all aspects beside monetary possession; friendship, knowledge, network, health, core belief, sense of significant and contributions, are things and experiences that’s will make us live more deeply.

Wealth:  An abundance of valuable material possessions or resources; riches

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