Trickiest notion about establishing sense of self control in digital age is balancing, to avoid falling into the pitfalls of compulsion of social media attention craving and channels of echo chamber which could be damaging and led to dependancy derailments is therefore of paramount important. In fact, long practiced offline social rituals such as story telling, prayers, wedding, birthday celebration, fellowship, funerals and even meal time together and so on had been empowering meaningful group reflection as one taking part in something larger than themselves. Likewise for Individual who engage in rituals in our daily mundane life, reminding ourselves we are after all unique and worthwhile as one of the best defences against our “everyday” living breaking away momentarily from our collective social and community identity. The bottom line is having the right balance of both digital and offline rituals for our own sense of sanity. The benefits of ritual is self-salvation and have fresh individual broad view about oneself which serve as a sense of power.
There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. —William Shakespeare
It’s therefore prudent to recognise the long term trends which provided the backdrop and set the context for discussion of more immediate issues of regaining individual sense of self control and purposes, after all we as social being need the right amount of recognition for self contemplation and the availability of modern days digital ritual had compelled us into unchartered territory where our self-worth is now measured in number of “likes” and “shares” in our artificially inflated virtual social circles which may be overwhelming at times and tips the balance. We need rituals in our lives to put things in perspective not the other way around of having engrossed in round the clock online rituals and live our lives within occasionally.
Live life for the moment because everything else is uncertain! Louis Tomlinson
One needs to recognise the rare black swan a term coined to define such an event has become as commonplace as ducks in a pond, having engaged in social media platform to establish self identify and unhealthy frenzy feeding of self glorification had become a common digital rituals where many found solace, comforts and purposes even though we also need regular offline rituals to remind ourselves of own own mortality, destination and self worth, we ultimately remained part of the many tiny screws of the gigantic wheel as the society progress and we move along the passage of time, fulfilling our obligation in our variety of roles as the family, community and state demands.
“The Wheel of Time turns, and Ages come and pass, leaving memories that become legend. Legend fades to myth, and even myth is long forgotten when the Age that gave it birth comes again.” ― Robert Jordan
When all things being equal even for a brief moment to reexamine deeply of oneself. One is forced to scrutinise the seemingly familiar matters and acquires new observation, this liberate us from our structured living and explains our hidden motive in relentless pursuit of rituals. Although thunderstorms of proliferation of social media of consuming our limited budget of mental and attention capacity and unbalanced practice of digital media infiltration have wreaked emotional Maelstrom world wide with faked news and post truth phenomena as we come to realisation our own nature of vulnerability and manipulative as big data tilts the playing field decisively in favour of the largest digital players themselves simply about maximising shareholder interests and their own economic security, mainly for commercialisation gains.
Social engineering is a discipline in social science that refers to efforts to influence particular attitudes and social behaviours on a large scale, whether by governments, media or private groups in order to produce desired characteristics in a target population.
The sense of security derive from the ritual provided fertile ground of reignite our passion for purposeful living. Marriage of having the union of two individual is one such ritual, family stand united against the world as love conquer all fear although highly influential western corporations such as Facebook, Google, Amazon and Apple had become the sole eco online ritual system in the world, with its superiority unchallenged and lacking of check and balance from the authority, they had single handedly overwhelmed billion of the users globally on their lifestyle, values and self worth which may have been more an aberration than the norm.
“Torture the data, and it will confess to anything.” – Ronald Coase,
Rather than mindful living, we are nudged forward by time and grew old before we know it. Ritual gave us back the sense of reasons, and substance which are something we treasured as we do have certain set of values and we can actually influence it. “I am the one who consume time in way I wanted and not the other way around.”
Following summarise both offline and online personal rituals to take advantage of for renewal of self awareness and purpose;
Digital ritual engagement: Delicate ritual usage of social media resources to “love” and “like” close associates and share the joys and happy moments exclusively only for close associates of whom it really matters as they had in-depth understanding of one shortfalls and dilemma as well. Avoid Facebook envy and proliferation of unverified and seemingly bad news. Joys shared with acquaintance simply is a form of showing off and make others miserable and envious as the two ways interaction is lacking off unlike typical verbal exchanges where one is usually more reserved and sensitive toward other reaction and body language and adjust the dynamic of the conversation accordingly.
Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow—SWEDISH PROVERB
Physical: Aerodynamic, get in touch with our own rhythms and better control of emotion and line of thoughts to provide the best optimised operating conditions for our brains to be the best.
Time management: Having upper hand on time usage elevates our self awareness and sense of control, prioritising and allocating the nature of tasks is the key, instead of being passive, one decides the consumption models of probably the most important resources of all nature; “Time”
Emotional Management: Maturity in reciprocity to other emotional needs and self control of personal emotional and being and mastery of certain tricks allows one brains to freed from the feeling of fears and anxiety for optimum performance;
Purposeful Living: Breaking down big purposes into fragmented achievable and measurable achievements and putting our best efforts in actualising them to make everyday an extraordinary one.
“Mens sana in corpore sano ” is a Latin phrase, usually translated as “a healthy mind in a healthy body”.
In Summary, although these online developments were nothing short of revolutionary but instead what mankind needed is rather simple and straight forward. Civilisation had progressed for the betterment with increasing average life span and opportunities for many in maximising their potentials, it is a question of growing interest to everyone to embrace both the offline and digital rituals effectively. People have widely varying behaviours and ideas about how likely they are to taking part in the rituals depending on how well balance of their daily lives having the right mix of ingredient of love, caring, dedication, financial resources and so on would go a long way to have a meaningful lives ahead.
Your strength will equal your days–Deuteronomy 33: 25…